Ciara one-two-stepped her way into a twitter catastrophe when she tweeted this video of Pastor John Gray preaching a sermon about how women need to stop acting like girlfriends while expecting to be wives. Her caption "#LevelUp" stirred some controversy on the timeline.
— Ciara (@ciara) January 20, 2018Those who agreed with Ciara's message believe that if it's acceptable to talk about being promiscuous then it should be okay to talk about being married:
I don't disagree with Ciara, the message I took from it was know your worth & don't settle which is empowering BUT you can emphasise what women need to do all day, if the same isn't reinforced to men what's the point.— GHANA'S FINEST (@Ghanasfinestx) January 22, 2018
So Ciara is getting backlash for for saying carry yourself as a wife!?— Qīus (@quisdaboss33) January 21, 2018
But when someone says embrace your inner hoe it’s all cool and the gang??
Copy!!
All Ciara said was level up and don’t settle. Why is this a big deal? If you’re not looking for marriage then don’t take her advice. It’s not that deep. If Beyoncé said this, we’ll be having a different convo— MaameAfibaBessa (@MaameAfibaBessa) January 21, 2018
Others disagreed with Ciara saying the #LevelUp message is problematic and that women shouldn't have to change to be considered worthy of marriage:
Ciara telling women to “Level up” and live “like a wife” so they can b married is astounding to me. Didn’t you need grace, mercy & compassion when you were being dragged up and down the Internet for the Future situation? How quickly ppl forget when they reach a perch of privilege— CiCi Adams (@CiCiAdams_) January 21, 2018
Ciara got a lot of you guys talking about how girls don’t carry themselves like wives when y’all don’t even carry yourselves like husbands. It’s crazy how you’ll expect a woman to go above and beyond for you when you’re only willing to do the bare minimum for her.— miranda 🍋 (@MirandaHayes1) January 21, 2018
Ciara responded via iPhone Notes with this statement:“level up”? these types of messages are so toxic to women. your value does not depend on a man wanting you and marriage is not the be all and end all. ciara is basic af for spreading this https://t.co/EQqTBDAIwa— sabrina (@sabrinaahmed) January 21, 2018
— Ciara (@ciara) January 21, 2018
Ciara is not worried about what haters have to say and says that her "#LevelUp" comment is more so focused on her self-love journey. Basically, sis is 1, 2, stepping down the aisle with her husband while not being concerned about anyone's opinion.
While Ciara might not be concerned with our opinions I'm still going to give mine because:
— . (@ktgonkt) October 27, 2017
In my opinion I can see both sides. On one hand I feel like you should act as if you are already the person you want to be. For example, if you want to be a CEO, carry yourself and act how you believe a CEO would. The same goes for this situation except I'm not going to be doing wifely duties as a girlfriend. If I'm already acting like a wife in the dating stage, what would make you want to give me a ring. It's like the saying goes, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
On the other hand if women have to "#LevelUp" then men should too. It seems that women have to do all the work while men (not all) can continue to be trash and not take accountability for their actions. Your value should not be determined on whether or not a man sees you as "wifey material." Your vibe attracts your tribe so whatever vibe you're putting out into the Universe you will get back. As long as you love and respect yourself you will attract someone who will do the same.
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